Sometimes facebook allows you to let your emotions hang out like an unsightly ragged edge slip. A touch of desperation as you announce to the world your latest boyfriend broke your heart. "How could he leave? All you can think of is him day and night. You will wait forever and ever because you'll never love anyone again like you love him." I do not have any one person in mind right now. Seriously. I'm just talking about the years I've been on face book and using some things I've seen to get a message across to you.
Do not say "I am bored" Don't you love your own company? If no, why not? Learn how to read, meditate or go for walks. Tell yourself stories. Dream of how you would fix up a house if you ever have one or a trip you would like to take. Not in covetous or envious sort of way but dreaming gives you hope for a future.
Be strong women. Not so needy that you settle for whoever comes along. A man needs to deserve you. If he is not kind and fair. If he does not treat you right, walk away with your head held high. Don't chase and plead or beg. Don't call and text him unless it is rare and he has asked you to do it for a specific reason. If he cares about you, he will call and text you. If he doesn't, you will probably just drive him away. No self respecting man likes a clingy woman. If he is paying a lot of attention at first and then gradually grows cold, back off. If he wants you he will come around. If he doesn't, then chasing and asking "What's wrong, what's wrong?" will only drive him farther away. I know there can be a sense of desperation when you feel that happening but TRUST me. It doesn't work to cling and beg. Have a little self respect and dignity. Value yourself or he will not value you.
I cringe when I see stuff like. "One of these days someone will hold you so tight, they will make all your hurts go away." No. No man can do that. Only God. Or other post that suggest a guy will come along and mend that empty hole in your heart. A guy comes along and your neediness drives him away. Fix yourself first. Be happy alone or you will not be happy with a guy. It is a God given desire to have a soul mate and find intimacy with a man, and what a beautiful thing it can be in Gods timing. But on your own, you can end up in a mess that's lifelong and heartbreaking.
Be modest. Don't flaunt what you have. Sure, you will get a lot of comments about how beautiful or hot you are, but what you will not get is true respect.
And for crying out loud, in the name of all that is beautiful and worthy, DON'T enter into a sexual relationship with a guy. I never cease to be amazed at how easily women get pulled into a sexual relationship with a man. Men pay women for sex all the time. Those woman are called prostitutes, and you are going to give it to him for free because he tells you what you want to hear? I told my teens that guys tend to give love to get sex but a girl gives sex to get love. So who loses here? The man got what he wanted. The woman gets used because he is probably telling her what she wants to hear, but so easily he walks away. The woman feels used and broken because in the end, she didn't get what she truly wanted. LOVE. Now I know I'm using general terms that do not apply every boy/ girl situation. I'm just trying to explain the difference between the way boys and girls think and why girls are more often hurt in sexual situations. And of course, this isn't including the fact the girl can get pregnant and that is something you cannot walk away from, but the guy can and often does.
If you are Christian...and I'm talking to Christian single women. You are a child of the king. A princess! You are worthy because your father is king. You are beautiful because he created you. Own it!
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